👇 Read this to Stress Less this Summer👇

Are you already feeling the anxiety of summer and too much free time on your kid’s hands? Is the lack of structure creating tension in your home?

I wanted to share with you another message I received from my one of my clients.

From my client:

Lisa, I’m at my wits end…and it’s only the 3rd day of summer. I really don’t know what to do at this point. It’s as if all hell has broken loose in my home now that my kids are out of school and it feels overwhelming. I’m already yelling at my kids constantly as I get repeatedly peppered with questions and requests. I work from home and don’t know what to do. To top things off, I was sick all weekend and it genuinely seems as if my kids could care less. They care that they don’t get to do the things they want to do, but they don’t care that I am in physical pain. I love my kids, but it feels like they are being real jerks and I’m about to throw them out of the house and lock the door!

I feel like a failure as a parent because my kids seem to have no compassion or understanding whatsoever for other people. They really don’t have any concept of how good they have it. I just about snapped today when my daughter was complaining that she didn’t have anything to do and was bored. We live in a brand new home with kids all around us. They have board games, art supplies, books to read, bikes, scooters, skateboards, parks nearby…essentially what 99% of the kids in the world would love to have, and my kids don’t appreciate any of it.

My response:

It seems to me like your kids struggle when they don’t have any structure to tell them what to do. Why don’t you sit down with them and schedule out their entire day?

8:00 – 9:00am – TV time

9:00 – 10:00am – Read a book and write 3 sentences about what you read

10:00 – 11:00am – Do an art project

11:00 – Noon – Play outside

Noon – Lunchtime

Allow them to have input on what and when they want to do things, and get them to agree to the schedule.

With respect to being sick and how they have responded, it seems like they literally do not know what to do, so it’s up to you to coach/teach them on what is appropriate. I suggest you sit with them and explain to them how it feels for you when you’re sick and give them specific examples of what you would like for them to do. For example, ask, “Daddy, are you feeling better? Is there anything I can do to help out since you aren’t feeling well?”. Take the time to actually teach them how to behave in these situations because they don’t know how to be empathetic. It is our responsibility as parents to teach them.

My client’s response:

Lisa…it’s been 24hrs and everything has shifted. We sat down to discuss the schedule and they were actually excited about a schedule. They really like knowing what’s going to happen and when. It’s been quiet all morning, no fighting, no yelling. They know the schedule, they are embracing it and they just check in on the hour as they transition to the next thing. So simple, but SO POWERFUL! Thank you. And I a work from home entrepreneur, I am getting things done with ease!

Also, I talked to them about how I was feeling when I was sick and how they didn’t seem to care. They both apologized, and while I know this is going to be an ongoing work in progress, I’m giving them some space and understanding to learn from it without me holding a grudge, and also giving myself some empathy that I’m not failing as a parent because my kids don’t act the way I want them to in every situation.

Thank you so much for your guidance, you’re like a parent whisperer, but with a much louder voice 😉 You’ve had a massive impact on me and my family, and we are eternally grateful.

Much love to you,


Want less stress this summer? Put a plan in place that meets the needs of both yourself and your kids.

In talking with Rick, I could quickly see that this was a case of feelings and needs not getting met..both his and his kids. The kids weren’t sure of how to mange their time and my guess is they were feeling overwhelmed with too many options. This happens a lot to kids of all ages, likely more than you might guess, and it can be directly attributed to their brain development, or in this case, lack thereof.

If summer is already getting the best of you, and two more months of it makes you feel more anxious than excited, Schedule 30 minutes with me and we’ll map out a plan together. You won’t get these years back, now is the time to make the changes necessary so you can replace conflict with connection.

Lisa Smith
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