I want my kid to be more ______________!

Take a moment to fill in the blank… honestly

I want my child to be ________!

Maybe more calm?

More gentle?

More assertive?

Less emotional?

More creative?

One of my instagram posts says…

You cannot expect to raise calm and gentle kids, if you are not! (Author unknown)

 

A friend recently shared this wisdom with me.

And it hit me like a ton of bricks and since then I have been observing my own parenting and those around me.

Currently I am on vacation at a beautiful, family-friendly tropical resort. Lots of families and kids of all ages!

This concept has become even more obvious to me as I look around (with truly no judgment!). I see a calm mom walking with 3 kids under 5… all calmly walking. I see a loud mom and dad with 3 girls all laughing loudly and really enjoying themselves. I see an extended family of high energy people and the tweens following suit.

I know in my own family this is also true!

My hubby and I each have an intensity that is often off the charts! We are intensity experts!

Our own boy… extremely intense with this feelings, wants and goals! I see this so clearly now!

Our biggest challenges as a family? When his intensity meets my intensity. Shazam! Kapow! Fireworks!

As I look ahead to 2019, I ask myself what new emotions or energies can I introduce to him, not by my words but by my actions.

See how this work?

Ok, now your homework? Simply fill in the blanks…

If I want my child to be ______, I must show him __________.

I’d love to hear your answers! Together we can all grow!

I look forward to being your guide toward peaceful parenting.

Lisa Smith
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Lisa Smith