I Was Teaching My Son To Be Angry

I was one of those people that said if I ever have kids I would raise them differently than I was raised and I meant it. Then I had a boy that I loved more than anything and I often found myself doing what I said I wouldn’t do and parenting in a way I didn’t want to. I didn’t know how to stop and that caused anger, hurt, and frustration on my part and I sometimes unknowingly took those emotions out on my family.

One day when my son was about six I realized I was teaching him to be reactive and angry. I cannot begin to describe the pain when I realized what was happening. I knew there had to be a better way. I knew there had to be a peaceful way to parent that felt like connection and love and not dominance or reaction. As a trained lifecoach and one who worked with executives, I knew change was possible. I have worked with and witnessed some very strong personalities seek change and transformation. I know how rewarding that change can be! I know how fulfilling reaching your full potential feels!

As the universe usually works, the solution fell right into my lap in my inbox one day. A friend of mine was doing a phone call/interview with Jolette Jai of the Jai Institute. I listened in the hope of learning something new- anything that would help and sure enough a miracle happened! Jolette talked about peaceful parenting. She talked about empathy, about connection, and about valuing the relationship and the person over the behavior of the moment. I was hooked from the beginning.

First I became a student absorbing every piece of information I could get my hands on. The impact was immediate for me, for my son, for my husband, and our family. Within the first week I felt the change. I could see the path to peaceful parenting. I knew the connection that I wanted to have with my son was right within my grasp. I felt a calmness come over me that I hadn’t felt since becoming a parent.

What changed you ask? I discovered value-based parenting! I discovered empathy and how to apply it to both myself and my son! I discovered a new way of thinking and approaching the challenges ahead of us. I learned techniques to take us away from reactionary confrontation and take us towards problem-solving solutions. I learned how to hold boundaries and use my values as the cornerstone of my parenting. Today I feel as though I am a peaceful parent, but by no means am I perfect. There are still some occasional setbacks in our house and we all lose our stuff once in a while. The difference is that I’m centered, calm and have tools in my toolbox that work in the short-term and bring us closer everyday.

I’ve had many, many big ah ha moments as a parenting coach. One of the biggest is-all kids are just trying to get their needs met! My training introduced me to this concept and it has really changed the way I look at all children. I am now able to have empathy for my son and do my best to help him figure out what he needs in the moment.

This work is not easy but I promise you it’s so worth it. The transformation will have an impact upon you and your family. This transformation will also help you in relationships in other areas of your life. After working together you will feel more connected to your kids, more empathetic towards yourself and your kids, and calm knowing you can handle any situation that comes your way.

If you’re ready to do the work, I am 100% here for you! Together we can do this! To thank you for reading this, I’d like to give you a gift! My gift to you is a free coaching session in which we can talk about your biggest challenge with regard to parenting. During this session, I will give you some tools that will have an immediate impact upon your family and your relationship with your children.

Go to The Peaceful Parenting Method Discovery Session to claim your gift. I look forward to serving you and your family!

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Lisa Smith

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