Growing up I remember there was a lot of anger in my house. All the adults seemed to be angry all the time and often it felt like it was directed at me, although I had no idea why. Many of us deal with anger based on the patterns that were set forth for us...Read More

If you know me at all you know I am a person of action. I like to make things better. I like to offer suggestions, solve problems and create change. And this action based problem solving personality is not always my best friend when it comes to parenting. Let me give you an example… My...Read More

There was a moment in time, not long ago, that I had a massive parenting epiphany. It dawned on me that I was giving my son what I needed…not what he needed. I was unconsciously looking to fulfill my own childhood needs and tend to my own injuries through him, rather than taking an honest...Read More

My 12 year old son has a new favorite word…yep you guessed it, “Whatever!” Let me state it correctly—“Whaaateeevveerrrr!” He has been saying it for about 2 months now and I must admit, at first, I was really triggered by this. Triggered is when you negatively react to an event/activity because you are making it...Read More

In my last email, I introduced you to the growth mindset. If you recall, growth mindset kids (and parents) believe the goal is to learn at all times, at all costs. Said another way, growth mindset people believe success, and therefore a positive self-image, are achieved by learning thru growth and effort. On the other...Read More